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Don’t Be Too Tough On Yourself!

Posted October 25, 2023 in Face Lift Advice
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The quest for self-improvement is almost a universal trait. It’s why people invest in their careers, relationships, and yes, even their appearance through procedures like plastic surgery. But there’s a fine line between self-improvement and self-destruction, especially when it comes to cosmetic treatments. You see, being too tough on oneself can tilt the scales from benefit to detriment quite rapidly. You might think, “Ah, just one more nip here or tuck there,” but before you know it, you’ve entered the territory of diminishing returns. Or as some might say, you’ve “overshopped in the cosmetic aisle.”


In plastic surgery, especially for those drawn to multiple procedures, the risk isn’t just physical. The emotional toll can be significant. Imagine waking up from surgery, looking in the mirror, and still not liking what you see—not because the surgeon did a poor job, but because you’ve set impossibly high standards for yourself. It’s the equivalent of scaling Mount Everest, then lamenting that you didn’t do it in record time. Unattainable expectations can overshadow real achievements and rob you of joy. You could call it “Post-Operative Discontent Syndrome,” or PODS for short.

The other pitfall is that relentless self-criticism often leads to emotional turbulence, which, in turn, can result in poor decision-making. Studies, like those by the National Institutes of Health, have demonstrated how heightened emotional states can impair rational thought. In this hyped-up condition, you’re more likely to make rash decisions about additional treatments that may not necessarily enhance your life or appearance.

But let’s circle back to that rating exercise. If you rated yourself between 7-10 in the “tough on yourself” scale, it might be time for a “self-love intervention.” Remember, you’re not in a boxing match with your reflection. No need to go twelve rounds trying to pummel every tiny imperfection. In fact, research in psychology indicates that self-compassion can lead to better mental health, thereby making your surgical journey more emotionally rewarding.

For those in the 4-6 range, you’re likely balanced but teetering on the edge. You understand the value of self-improvement but haven’t completely dodged the trap of self-criticism. Proceed with caution; let your surgeon be your guide and keep those self-expectations in check.

If you scored between 1-3, congratulations, you probably already practice a good degree of self-love. You view cosmetic surgery as an investment in yourself, but not as the ultimate determinant of your self-worth. You’ve understood the point of this essay without having to read it—lucky you!

The ultimate goal is to land at a resounding ZERO in the self-toughness scale. Embrace the skin you’re in (newly tightened or not). Loving yourself for who you are today will bring the kind of happiness that no surgical scalpel can incise. And that, my friends, is the best form of self-improvement there is.

So, as you contemplate your next cosmetic decision, remember the real goal is to amplify the beauty that’s already within you, not to chase after an unattainable ideal. Because when you love yourself—truly, deeply, laugh-lines and all—that’s when you unlock the secret to not just looking better, but feeling better too. Now, isn’t that something to smile about?